Monday, June 26, 2006
"Nice Tits!"
When a guy yells to a woman on the street, "Nice tits!" or wolf-whistles, what exactly is he trying to accomplish?
Does he think the woman is going to be impressed by this and come running?
"Really? You think I have nice tits? Let's have sex!"
Does he think his friends will think he's cool?
The thing is, he's more apt to impress his friends than he is the woman, so I can only assume the guy is yelling to the woman for the sake of the men around him. Is he such a wimp that he can't handle a face-to-face conversation with a woman so he has to make sure that no woman will ever talk to him? I believe that many men who catcall are actually trying to cover up that they are gay.
If a guy truly wants to impress a woman, he will take the time to find out her name, and not make her feel uncomfortable and socially ackward. Even if all he wants to do is honk her titty, he can at least pretend he's interested in what she has to say.
The only woman you are going to attract by screaming rude comments about her body is one who is very stupid, a slut, and/or has horrible self-esteem. You know how some guys complain about the women they wind up with? Well, if you are an idiot, you are only going to attract idiots. Before you go complaining about women, take a good look at yourself.
If you try to impress women with your money, your fancy car, or your nice clothes, you are going to attract women who are money-grubbers. A smart woman wouldn't give you the time of day if you are so insecure that you think you have to flaunt money to get a date.
Women, if you are complaining that men only want you for your body, that may be true, but, is that all you are offering? Are you so insecure that you can't win a guy over with your personality? I don't mean you shouldn't wear flattering clothes, but there is pretty and then there is cheap whore.
Or am I terribly naive and there are people out there who are so stupid and boring that money and looks are all they have to offer? I refuse to believe that's the case, no matter how much evidence I see to the contrary.
A long time ago I was talking to a guy in a chatroom who offered to send me his picture. It was a picture of him jacking off in the shower. I told him that he's disgusting and to stay away from me. He IMed me back, "Oh, I'm so sorry! I'm so embarrassed! I can't believe this happened! An old girlfriend took that picture of me and I must have sent it to you by mistake! Oh my god I could just die! Here, let me send you the picture I meant to send!" So he sends me something almost as bad, he's not wearing a shirt and he's leaning up against a Corvette with some sort of motorcycle in the background.
Wow, you have a picture of yourself with a Corvette? Want to have sex? Puh-leeze!
I signed off and came back to the chatroom with a different name. What do you know, he starts IMing me again, only he doesn't know it's me.
"Hey! Want to see a picture of me?" he asks.
"Sure," I say, wondering if, could it possibly be...
A minute later he's saying, "Oh, I'm so sorry! I'm so embarrassed! I can't believe this happened! An old girlfriend took that picture of me and I must have sent it to you by mistake! Oh my god I could just die! Here, let me send you the picture I meant to send!" after he, once again, sent me the picture of him jacking off in the shower.
Wherever he is now and whatever he's doing, I'm sure that, if he actually has a woman in his life, he's complaining that she only likes him for his car.
People find what they are looking for, they sell only what they advertise, and they get what they expect. If you find yourself winding up with certain kinds of people in your life, stop for a moment and think about what you are doing to attract them.
Does he think the woman is going to be impressed by this and come running?
"Really? You think I have nice tits? Let's have sex!"
Does he think his friends will think he's cool?
The thing is, he's more apt to impress his friends than he is the woman, so I can only assume the guy is yelling to the woman for the sake of the men around him. Is he such a wimp that he can't handle a face-to-face conversation with a woman so he has to make sure that no woman will ever talk to him? I believe that many men who catcall are actually trying to cover up that they are gay.
If a guy truly wants to impress a woman, he will take the time to find out her name, and not make her feel uncomfortable and socially ackward. Even if all he wants to do is honk her titty, he can at least pretend he's interested in what she has to say.
The only woman you are going to attract by screaming rude comments about her body is one who is very stupid, a slut, and/or has horrible self-esteem. You know how some guys complain about the women they wind up with? Well, if you are an idiot, you are only going to attract idiots. Before you go complaining about women, take a good look at yourself.
If you try to impress women with your money, your fancy car, or your nice clothes, you are going to attract women who are money-grubbers. A smart woman wouldn't give you the time of day if you are so insecure that you think you have to flaunt money to get a date.
Women, if you are complaining that men only want you for your body, that may be true, but, is that all you are offering? Are you so insecure that you can't win a guy over with your personality? I don't mean you shouldn't wear flattering clothes, but there is pretty and then there is cheap whore.
Or am I terribly naive and there are people out there who are so stupid and boring that money and looks are all they have to offer? I refuse to believe that's the case, no matter how much evidence I see to the contrary.
A long time ago I was talking to a guy in a chatroom who offered to send me his picture. It was a picture of him jacking off in the shower. I told him that he's disgusting and to stay away from me. He IMed me back, "Oh, I'm so sorry! I'm so embarrassed! I can't believe this happened! An old girlfriend took that picture of me and I must have sent it to you by mistake! Oh my god I could just die! Here, let me send you the picture I meant to send!" So he sends me something almost as bad, he's not wearing a shirt and he's leaning up against a Corvette with some sort of motorcycle in the background.
Wow, you have a picture of yourself with a Corvette? Want to have sex? Puh-leeze!
I signed off and came back to the chatroom with a different name. What do you know, he starts IMing me again, only he doesn't know it's me.
"Hey! Want to see a picture of me?" he asks.
"Sure," I say, wondering if, could it possibly be...
A minute later he's saying, "Oh, I'm so sorry! I'm so embarrassed! I can't believe this happened! An old girlfriend took that picture of me and I must have sent it to you by mistake! Oh my god I could just die! Here, let me send you the picture I meant to send!" after he, once again, sent me the picture of him jacking off in the shower.
Wherever he is now and whatever he's doing, I'm sure that, if he actually has a woman in his life, he's complaining that she only likes him for his car.
People find what they are looking for, they sell only what they advertise, and they get what they expect. If you find yourself winding up with certain kinds of people in your life, stop for a moment and think about what you are doing to attract them.
